This has weighed so heavily on my heart and I thought I would share with you.
On a personal level I do not drink alcohol. I am not against it, it is something I do not do. Yes, I do have friends who drink, and it doesn’t bother me at all. But for some reason it tends to bother some of my friends.
“Hannah just try it.”
“No, why is it such a big deal that I don’t drink?”
“Because it’s not the social norm.”
What you have just read was a literal conversation I had with one of my friends. Honestly it really hurt me.
Why is it such a big deal? I will never understand to be honest. I have learned that trying to fit in with everyone else is not what I want to do. I want to be my own person and stand out. Yes I do feel like I get judged but I’m at the point in my life where I could honestly careless.
For medical reasons, I am unable to drink as well. I have even explained it to my friends how if I consume alcohol I will end up in the hospital. But my friends continue to say one sip won’t hurt. Honestly I don’t know maybe one won’t hurt, but I am still not taking my chances.
To the people who are the only ones in their friend group who doesn’t drink:
It is okay that you do not drink. You do not have to drink. If it makes you uncomfortable then you don’t have to do it. Don’t let your friends peer pressure you into doing something that you do not want to do. If your friends continue to do that then they are not good friends at all.
To the people who pressure their friends into drinking when they choose not to:
Stop. Be respectful of your friend’s wishes and get over the fact that they do not want to drink. Honestly who cares? Because obviously you do. If you continue to do that to your friend or friends, then you my dear are a terrible friend.
I truly hoped this helped people who are that one friend who doesn’t drink or maybe it even helped that one friend who peer pressures their friend into drinking. Just remember, if you do not want to drink don’t do it, and also if you do drink, when your friend says no, then no means no.
Don’t worry about being normal, for normal is so overrated.